Today is one of those days that I really shouldn’t blog. I’m not in a good frame of mind to post something every day of my life, and some days private writing is more appropriate than public writing. So to continue with NaBloPoMo, I’ll pass along 3 links to great articles I read today regarding parenting and families.
The first, called “Why Kids Act Out at Bedtime,” by Dr. Kelly Flanagan, a dad
who is also a psychologist. I remember
Glennon over at momastery.com describing bedtime as one big game of
whack-a-mole, where you get one kid settled and then the other has a request,
and on and on and on…back and forth, in and out of the room, whacking those
damn moles that keep popping up again.
It is fraying on even the most patient person’s nerves, and I’m not the
most patient person. Dr. Flanagan
reveals how our response to bedtime has more to do with ourselves as parents
and less to do with our kids.
The second, called “Let your kids be mad at you,” by Janet Lansbury of
Elevating Child Care. She talks about
the need as parents to be able to handle the full range of our kids’
emotions. To be open to their anger at
us, to not recoil or leave or defend or reproach when our kids express their
anger at us. Today Isaac said to me, “I
want to be in our house but I don’t want to be anywhere near you” when he was
mad at me. I’m glad he feels comfortable
saying it, although it is sometimes hard to hear. I’m also glad that even when he’s most angry,
he still wants to be “in our house.” I
take that to mean that he’s not running away anytime soon.
The third, called “Marriage isn’t easy, but it’s beautiful, pope says,”
reported by Cindy Wooden of Catholic News Service. Pope Francis spoke in Vatican City about
marriage and family life. He affirms
that marriage is not an easy path, but that in “lov[ing] one other person
forever…the trials, sacrifices and crises in the life of the couple or the
family are stages for growth in goodness, truth and beauty.” I read a comment once in which an older woman
who had been married for 50+ years said that for about 5 years of her marriage,
she hated her husband. But over the
course of their married life, she considered that loving him for 90% of their
marriage made up for that 10% of their time together that was difficult. What if she had given up during the 10%? What if she would have walked away from that
marriage and lost the 45 happy years together? Marriage is
hard but it is also beautiful.